[kaymanb]

I have seen the most positive change from being more compassionate towards myself.

It is so easy to put pressure, shame, and negativity onto yourself, to a degree that you never would for anyone else. It has been very helpful at times to ask "What would I say to a good friend who was in the same situation as me?". Almost always, it is a complete 180 from the aweful things I would tell myself. Knowing that I have the ability to be just as compassionate to myself as I strive to be towards others, has been huge.

[mftb]

I'm old so people ask me for advice from time to time. Most often the first thing I hear myself saying is, "Try to give yourself a break". Usually what people have related to me when asking, is so needlessly hard on themselves. Anyway I think you're on to something positive.