[EveYoung]

I think the problem for most people is that we simply don't have many opportunities for these type of interactions at a certain point in life. Also, why do you need to have deep conversations before going out on a date? If there is physical attraction and some shared interests, what's the harm of meeting for some drinks?

[stared]

I don't claim that dating apps are a bad idea - but that they are not optimized for my use case.

Why talking first? Well, for me:

P(attractive|interesting) >> P(interesting|attractive)

and by a few orders of magnitude (1000?). YMMV.

[lupire]

But the best way to talk is...on date!

Texting or whatever is terrible. There's no way to convey sense of humor and text is rife with misunderstanding tone.