The lives people dream of are often expressions of fantasies and desires to escape their current situation. Personally everything is the same. I've never found joy from any of them.
Environment and way of upbringing has changed _massively_ over the last three generations. It would be weird if everybody stayed the same. Gen Z/A grew up with iPads glued to their hands (or, many of them). Of course they will approach things differently, and communicate differently.
My parents just can’t fathom the idea that I‘d do more with and for my kids than the bare minimum required. And I don’t think that’s entirely an individual change, but rather a generational one, too.
Ancient observer here - we all know that history doesn't repeat but it rhymes and people are just hairless (mostly), crazy bonobos at heart. The expectation that things will be different somehow goes away if you pay attention to history.
This is a great point, we treat all the dopamine and novelty uptick when escaping our normal life, but we then return and spend 90% of our life in exactly the same rut.
I think the trick is to design the 90% to work based on realities, not fantasies. We think that moving to bali, surfing every day, drinking coconuts and participate in ayahuasca is somewhat extraordinary or can sustain our connection to it long-term, but thats not really the case. Every place, every fantasy has a trade-off and is usually short lived.
So coming back to `present`. Its fixing our daily life that is desperately needed in order not to dream of that 2 weeks bahamas escapism. But I suppose that is what is meant here as slow life and how can we design it... unfortunately still haven't found the answer to this.
They should actually hope they do not ever achieve their dreams. Because they would likely find that the contentment and happiness they were hoping to get does not materialize. In fact, they end up feeling worse. Because not only will they find they do not feel more content or happier, but that they have also lost the illusion that 'if only' they had this or that that their condition would improve. They discover that what they have been experiencing is, in fact, the human condition.
coder4life|3 years ago
Just like when people say "people are so different now; everyone's so <X>"
What bullshit. Everything is the same, except the observer's ever increasing age with respect to others.
manmal|3 years ago
My parents just can’t fathom the idea that I‘d do more with and for my kids than the bare minimum required. And I don’t think that’s entirely an individual change, but rather a generational one, too.
MadScott|3 years ago
kirso|3 years ago
I think the trick is to design the 90% to work based on realities, not fantasies. We think that moving to bali, surfing every day, drinking coconuts and participate in ayahuasca is somewhat extraordinary or can sustain our connection to it long-term, but thats not really the case. Every place, every fantasy has a trade-off and is usually short lived.
So coming back to `present`. Its fixing our daily life that is desperately needed in order not to dream of that 2 weeks bahamas escapism. But I suppose that is what is meant here as slow life and how can we design it... unfortunately still haven't found the answer to this.
agent008t|3 years ago