[flamebreath447]

What I’ve learned reading many of the comments on threads and most of the article is really just to keep your mouth shut.

You can comfort people in loss without saying a word. Your consistent presence through the grieving is good enough.

There’s an entire thread where people anecdotally share what others did to help them, and then two comments later someone says that it would offend them or come across wrong.

The aim shouldn’t be about perfection, helping people to make yourself seem like a good person or even to do what you would want others to do for you. It should be to selflessly offer consistent comfort. If they wanna be alone they will let you know, it the need something they can ask.

When my friends father died I said nothing, I just sat next to him and cried. I just wanted him to know I saw his pain and he was not alone.

Learning to come along side others in their pain is messy, hard and very inconvenient. But it’s the most meaningful part of humanity we have.