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I don't see anything patronizing or showing superiority in what I wrote. I am saying this as a peer, not as a superior.

It's kinda weird to expect people not to make mistakes such as this if nobody tells them it's wrong. And it's normal for people to tell other people they do bad stuff if they do.

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jjulius|3 years ago

>I don't see anything patronizing or showing superiority in what I wrote. I am saying this as a peer, not as a superior.

And you have four different peers who have responded to you suggesting that you are being condescending. Take a step back and ask why - intention and tone are two different things, and if you get the latter wrong then we will misunderstand the former.

>It's kinda weird to expect people not to make mistakes such as this if nobody tells them it's wrong. And it's normal for people to tell other people they do bad stuff if they do.

Just let 'em be. You're not a hero. They admitted what they did, and why they know it's wrong. You're not doing anything other than going, "Yep, you sure did fuck up."

whatwherewhy|3 years ago

> Take a step back and ask why - intention and tone are two different things, and if you get the latter wrong then we will misunderstand the former.

Good point, OK.

layer8|3 years ago

So you’re assuming that you know better than them what they’ve done wrong, that you have to tell them, and how they should make up for it. That’s how your tone is coming across.

whatwherewhy|3 years ago

> you know better than them what they’ve done wrong

Hardly, since I just agreed with what they said. I suggested what IMHO is a good way to make up for it. Nothing else.

> that you have to tell them

Sure, I have to. I think everyone should say something in cases like this.