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grwthckrmstr | 3 years ago

conjecture - The more things in life people adopt as their identity, the greater the surface area for one to be triggered?

I still find it funny to meet friends who are hardcore football or cricket fans and watch them lose their mind if I said a single not-very-positive word about their favourite teams.

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dorkwood|3 years ago

> The more things in life people adopt as their identity, the greater the surface area for one to be triggered?

I find the opposite to be true.

The more things you adopt as part of your identity, the less you're affected when one of those things gets criticized. For example, if you're mostly a gamer, and someone says gaming is stupid, then you're automatically very hurt, since 90% of who you are was just insulted.

However, if gaming is only 10% of what you are, then you're not as affected. The myriad facets of your identity diffuse any incoming attacks. In my opinion, we should be striving to grow our identities, not shrink them.