It's very difficult to go through life being treated with disdain, which is the treatment a lot of nonbinary and transgender people get. Even if you think it's justified, you don't have to be the reason their lives are difficult.
Huh, that's an interesting analogy and not one I'd ever really thought about before. After all, there are people with terrible combovers and toupees that most people pretend they don't notice (no offense if that's you, OP). I'm trying to imagine how much "not playing along" you'd have to do before you ended up in HR over it, and I'd think it would have to be quite a bit - certainly just pretending you didn't notice and not agreeing or disagreeing when the guy in question says his hair is completely natural wouldn't be enough.
Perhaps it is legitimate to hold that view. I mean, the concept of non-binary requires holding the irrational, non-empirical belief that men and women are loosely defined as a set of sexist stereotypes, rather than sex.
They've taken a socially conservative ideal of what women and men should be like (per whatever culture they're in), assumed that this is what actually defines women and men, and decided to carve themselves an opt-out in the form of an extra category. When they probably should be taking a step back and wondering why they hold these rigid definitions of men and women in the first place, and applying some critical thinking.
It ain’t the activists fault society has been so vile to those populations that they had to turn to extreme public instigations to get any attention and subsequent respect
Based on those questionably real experiences relating to your coworker's pronouns and last name, it kinda seems like you decided in advance to now plant your flag on being standoffish and pretty foul towards people who chose not to act as sex they were assigned at birth, by calling their gender identity "imaginary" when the topic comes up. Which is just prejudice I think? Kind of a pick your battles moment really, are you really going to preemptively be irritated at any mention of nonbinary or trans people forever?
blueflow|3 years ago
Should i be able to force you to pretend im not balding?
commandlinefan|3 years ago
Huh, that's an interesting analogy and not one I'd ever really thought about before. After all, there are people with terrible combovers and toupees that most people pretend they don't notice (no offense if that's you, OP). I'm trying to imagine how much "not playing along" you'd have to do before you ended up in HR over it, and I'd think it would have to be quite a bit - certainly just pretending you didn't notice and not agreeing or disagreeing when the guy in question says his hair is completely natural wouldn't be enough.
homonculus1|3 years ago
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dang|3 years ago
https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
tosc|3 years ago
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ppopp|3 years ago
They've taken a socially conservative ideal of what women and men should be like (per whatever culture they're in), assumed that this is what actually defines women and men, and decided to carve themselves an opt-out in the form of an extra category. When they probably should be taking a step back and wondering why they hold these rigid definitions of men and women in the first place, and applying some critical thinking.
kingkawn|3 years ago
at_a_remove|3 years ago
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Gabriel_Martin|3 years ago