[thensome]

Written instructions and lawyer are both good. Depending how technical it is, how private it is, and how comfortable your spouse is with doing tech stuff by reading instructions, you might want to have a designated person to help your spouse.

My partner is dyslexic and computers are one of her triggers for anxiety, so I'm planning to write up instructions for her along with my mom or sister, bc i know she already has a hard enough time technologically even with me not being dead. I don't need her crying and throwing the computer on the ground after i die bc she put the wrong password in 5 times and got locked out. It's not that she isn't smart enough, i just think it's not ideal for her to be trying to parse my tech stuff in what is already a potentially traumatic situation.