Some women do not seem to understand, or somehow forget, that they are a "protected class" in society. Men do not hit women. Men are polite to women. Men put women first. We are all trained that, from an early age.
You may agree or disagree, but that's the state of society at the moment. If you don't want to be subject to different treatment than a man, don't identify as a woman. I'm not really aware of any other solutions at the moment.
Right. Except all those cases of domestic abuse, I mean.
"Men are polite to women."
Have you ever actually been a woman? Typically men ignore women, except attractive women, who they ogle or patronize. In stores, men get served first or, if it's a couple, people assume the man is the decision-maker and speak primarily to him. People assume that men lead any social interaction. This is readily observable even if you're a man.
"Men put women first."
Except when it comes to childrearing, domestic arrangements, wages and promotions, poverty-reduction programs, marketing, healthcare (there's viagra and procepia, but it was only two years ago they figured out the structure of the clitoris), and in the classroom where boys are still called on first and it is routinely assumed that girls can't do math or science.
But otherwise, sure, you're spot-on.
(Oh, except, not identifying as a woman. We try. Especially online, where random threats of violence and rape happen routinely in certain communities like gaming as soon as you check the "F" box, often from complete strangers. But are you really saying that an entire group of people should just not be who they are to receive equal treatment? Right.)
1. Make a hypothesis: Men are overly nice to female HN posters.
2. Make assumptions, like that HN's readers are predominantly male. Sure, the probably are, but who knows for sure? If I was asked for my gender when I signed up, I responded randomly. Reliable demographics are simply not available.
3. Test your hypothesis in a way that does not control most variables: Change your name and post on completely different topics. Maybe your male posts were dumber or more interesting than your female posts. Maybe you posted to newer threads with more active commentors. etc. etc. etc. Even your choice of names could bias the study.
4. Have no objective metrics of "niceness". i.e. Evaluate everything with your "gut feeling". (Note: Your gut is biased towards your hypothesis!)
5. Conclude that your assumption was correct based on a statistically insignificant amount of highly suspect data.
I'm not saying your hypothesis couldn't be true. I'm just saying it's going to be a lot more difficult to prove (to even a modest degree of confidence) than you thought it would be. I'm also not saying we should ignore an unproven theory. We act on unproven theories all the time after all.
> 2. Make assumptions, like that HN's readers are predominantly male. Sure, the probably are, but who knows for sure? If I was asked for my gender when I signed up, I responded randomly. Reliable demographics are simply not available.
It's well-documented that men significantly outnumber women in the software industry (and other high-tech industries). Why is it unreasonable to expect that HN reflects this imbalance? It would seem more odd for there to be an imbalance in the industry in general but perfect equality on HN.
The hypothesis that men are too nice to women here is a statement by a member who indicated she hides her gender for that reason. These were my thoughts in reaction to that assertion. I initially posted here, in reply to her. Then decided that was not really a good idea and moved it to a personal blog. It is not intended to be scientific, comprehensive and so forth.
I'd love to say I agree totally with the article because it does raise some really good points and it is an extremely interesting topic. I'd also like to give the average (talking a mean average here not some kind of "norm") man, and cisgender males more specifically, the benefit of the doubt. Agree there are some intellectuals (read nerds) who are acting in the way the article suggests but personally I think the main cause of the "egg-shells" treatment is a basic view of women as being, again on average, inferior. Or, that all women are essentially the same (as the article hinted at with the "my girlfriend" comment).
I thought the use of the word "intelligence" in the post was an interesting choice too. By the description can only assume this is referring to IQ. What about EI? Surely we’ve progressed beyond the stage of thinking of IQ, which is essentially just processing patterns, as the be-all and end-all of intelligence!
I homeschooled my gifted-learning disabled sons. I am very aware there are many kinds of intelligence. This piece isn't the place for getting into all of that.
Women are treated different on hacker news in the same ways that women are treated differently in the world (US worldview) with some slight variance due to the makeup of HN posters. We have differences... while mostly physical there are differences in men and women's brains. Different is not bad. Many of us can relate in childhood saying one thing to a guy and that same thing to a woman and getting different responses. In addition, being "chivalrous" is still kept in high regard by most women and some men (though deteriorating rapidly). Chivalry amounts to treating women different from men in much the same way your hypothesis on your article espouses. Since the HN community is 1. Generally smarter than the overall populations and 2. Generally more introverted and thus has less female interaction they will tend to revert to social norms (chivalry) and from female interactions from childhood rather than adulthood.
sexist and generalist piece... you can't (and shouldn't, really) put all pieces of the same gender in a single bucket.
Plus, you have nicknames on HN. What can assure you anyone is (or isn't) a woman? If you feel unconfortable by "being one in the man's club", just pick a neutral nickname and be treated "like a man"...
There are plenty of women who do just that - hide their gender on HN or downplay it. That approach fails to change the social dynamic and, in fact, helps keep it entrenched.
As far as I'm concerned, I don't even look at the username of the person whom I'm replying to. I just put in my two cents and take part in the discussion, only if it turns out to be really, really interesting do I actually look at the username to go to said person's profile. I'm quite sure a lot of other posters have a similar attitude.
HN is a forum about interesting stuff, and (dare I say it) similar to it's secular community, is also probably a very asexual (unconcerned with the gender of the participant) community. If the author of the post had included more examples, then perhaps we could come to some sort of statistical guess about whether gender really is a 'problem' or not.
Some women have noticed that some men don't listen to substantive points when they are made by women, only when they are made by men. And so they have asked male friends to make these points for them.
1. As a socially-awkward smart dude, the last section of the post resonates with me, because I'm getting over a lot of my social awkwardness through interacting with women. And it's great.
2. I don't know what all the fuss coming from other HN-readers is about. As a man, I readily acknowledge that women sometimes see things completely differently than men, and while I could ram a lot of sociology theory down dissenting commenters' throats about women and minorities and how each non-male or non-white constituency develops a consciousness/worl-view particular to and shared with their respective cohorts, and that to males (white or otherwise) these world-views might be hard to parse... but I won't go into theory.
To me the design of HN actually inherently helps the gender balance. Here comments are read at face value & not pre-judged according to who the poster is. I like that.
The comment is at the forefront of the post. The user name is not emblazened atop of the post in size 72 font (unlike in other forums) A distinct lack of user icons, real names & sigs make HN so comment-centric that I come back here most of all.
I've never felt what the OP has described. Welcome yes - no fuzzy warm comments when I declare "hey guys, girl alert" (just to clarify - I don't do that!). No unusual responses - even with a quite obviously female username.
I think where the community bustles here is on controversial posts. Personally, I don't comment on those types of thread.
Maybe it's the type of posts the OP is posting on or that she mentions that she is female within her comment that gets a skewed response.
Just to clarify: I am not complaining and generally agree with your observations. These were my thoughts in response to a remark by someone who did voice a complaint.
The HN title is very confusing. I was full of righteous fury when, initially, I interpreted it to imply there's a difference in quality between girl-thoughts and boy-thoughts. Could you please replace the hyphen in the title with an em dash?
Commenting here is largely a waste of time, but I suppose it is an area for the pursuit of feminist ideals. Commenting generally has higher opportunity cost than reading comments. Aside from this comment, my activities here have been reduced to reading an occasional article and a few well-written comments, and to upvoting the downvoted.
TL;DR: We declare beforehand, without consulting any science (including Sociology and History), that men and women should have absolutely the same interests, and then lament about the existence of fields where men and women are not equally represented and condemn them as sexist.
Different groups of people have different priorities, likes and such. Not even Democrats vs Republicans -- even women vs men, black vs white, etc. Whenever you can make a distinction between two groups, you have attributes group A has that B does not.
Not everything is because there is some power at play keeping A/B different, and A/B not being absolutely interchangeable is not always a problem.
[+] [-] enko|14 years ago|reply
You may agree or disagree, but that's the state of society at the moment. If you don't want to be subject to different treatment than a man, don't identify as a woman. I'm not really aware of any other solutions at the moment.
[+] [-] zallen|14 years ago|reply
Right. Except all those cases of domestic abuse, I mean.
"Men are polite to women."
Have you ever actually been a woman? Typically men ignore women, except attractive women, who they ogle or patronize. In stores, men get served first or, if it's a couple, people assume the man is the decision-maker and speak primarily to him. People assume that men lead any social interaction. This is readily observable even if you're a man.
"Men put women first."
Except when it comes to childrearing, domestic arrangements, wages and promotions, poverty-reduction programs, marketing, healthcare (there's viagra and procepia, but it was only two years ago they figured out the structure of the clitoris), and in the classroom where boys are still called on first and it is routinely assumed that girls can't do math or science.
But otherwise, sure, you're spot-on.
(Oh, except, not identifying as a woman. We try. Especially online, where random threats of violence and rape happen routinely in certain communities like gaming as soon as you check the "F" box, often from complete strangers. But are you really saying that an entire group of people should just not be who they are to receive equal treatment? Right.)
[+] [-] AndrewDucker|14 years ago|reply
[+] [-] beloch|14 years ago|reply
2. Make assumptions, like that HN's readers are predominantly male. Sure, the probably are, but who knows for sure? If I was asked for my gender when I signed up, I responded randomly. Reliable demographics are simply not available.
3. Test your hypothesis in a way that does not control most variables: Change your name and post on completely different topics. Maybe your male posts were dumber or more interesting than your female posts. Maybe you posted to newer threads with more active commentors. etc. etc. etc. Even your choice of names could bias the study.
4. Have no objective metrics of "niceness". i.e. Evaluate everything with your "gut feeling". (Note: Your gut is biased towards your hypothesis!)
5. Conclude that your assumption was correct based on a statistically insignificant amount of highly suspect data.
I'm not saying your hypothesis couldn't be true. I'm just saying it's going to be a lot more difficult to prove (to even a modest degree of confidence) than you thought it would be. I'm also not saying we should ignore an unproven theory. We act on unproven theories all the time after all.
[+] [-] bmalee|14 years ago|reply
It's well-documented that men significantly outnumber women in the software industry (and other high-tech industries). Why is it unreasonable to expect that HN reflects this imbalance? It would seem more odd for there to be an imbalance in the industry in general but perfect equality on HN.
[+] [-] Mz|14 years ago|reply
Thanks.
[+] [-] ifearthenight|14 years ago|reply
I'd love to say I agree totally with the article because it does raise some really good points and it is an extremely interesting topic. I'd also like to give the average (talking a mean average here not some kind of "norm") man, and cisgender males more specifically, the benefit of the doubt. Agree there are some intellectuals (read nerds) who are acting in the way the article suggests but personally I think the main cause of the "egg-shells" treatment is a basic view of women as being, again on average, inferior. Or, that all women are essentially the same (as the article hinted at with the "my girlfriend" comment).
I thought the use of the word "intelligence" in the post was an interesting choice too. By the description can only assume this is referring to IQ. What about EI? Surely we’ve progressed beyond the stage of thinking of IQ, which is essentially just processing patterns, as the be-all and end-all of intelligence!
[+] [-] Mz|14 years ago|reply
Thanks.
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[+] [-] herval|14 years ago|reply
Plus, you have nicknames on HN. What can assure you anyone is (or isn't) a woman? If you feel unconfortable by "being one in the man's club", just pick a neutral nickname and be treated "like a man"...
[+] [-] AndrewDucker|14 years ago|reply
[+] [-] Mz|14 years ago|reply
But thanks for commenting.
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[+] [-] jasondrowley|14 years ago|reply
1. As a socially-awkward smart dude, the last section of the post resonates with me, because I'm getting over a lot of my social awkwardness through interacting with women. And it's great.
2. I don't know what all the fuss coming from other HN-readers is about. As a man, I readily acknowledge that women sometimes see things completely differently than men, and while I could ram a lot of sociology theory down dissenting commenters' throats about women and minorities and how each non-male or non-white constituency develops a consciousness/worl-view particular to and shared with their respective cohorts, and that to males (white or otherwise) these world-views might be hard to parse... but I won't go into theory.
[+] [-] iamdave|14 years ago|reply
Oh my god, it’s a girl and what if she breaks down and cries because I argued with her
What??
Who thinks that, where?
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[+] [-] helen842000|14 years ago|reply
The comment is at the forefront of the post. The user name is not emblazened atop of the post in size 72 font (unlike in other forums) A distinct lack of user icons, real names & sigs make HN so comment-centric that I come back here most of all.
I've never felt what the OP has described. Welcome yes - no fuzzy warm comments when I declare "hey guys, girl alert" (just to clarify - I don't do that!). No unusual responses - even with a quite obviously female username.
I think where the community bustles here is on controversial posts. Personally, I don't comment on those types of thread.
Maybe it's the type of posts the OP is posting on or that she mentions that she is female within her comment that gets a skewed response.
[+] [-] Mz|14 years ago|reply
Thanks.
[+] [-] ordinary|14 years ago|reply
Edit: Thanks!
[+] [-] dextorious|14 years ago|reply
(Quality not as in better, but as in "different" [dict] character or nature, as belonging to or distinguishing a thing).
For example: http://www.plosone.org/article/info:doi/10.1371/journal.pone...
[+] [-] ChristianMarks|14 years ago|reply
[+] [-] dextorious|14 years ago|reply
Different groups of people have different priorities, likes and such. Not even Democrats vs Republicans -- even women vs men, black vs white, etc. Whenever you can make a distinction between two groups, you have attributes group A has that B does not.
Not everything is because there is some power at play keeping A/B different, and A/B not being absolutely interchangeable is not always a problem.
Get over it.
[+] [-] AndrewDucker|14 years ago|reply