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apocalypstyx | 3 years ago

Most people are not going to have the requisite knowledge of pedagogy. We think we know X, Y, Z, or we actually know X, Y, Z, but teaching that (especially to children) is a whole other ballgame.

When your parents are your teachers, the disappointment quotient to your failure isn't double but a power of 2 because, whether they know it or not, their ego is on the line twice over as both teacher and parent.

They tend to start telling you or others that 'you're so mature for your age', where you are expected to be adult in mentality but without the actual ability to act upon that mentality (that is, they want to reference how 'adult' you are --- because of their parenting/education style --- and by definition of being underage, you have no autonomy. So have all the expectations of being or interacting like an adult without any of the autonomy, so you end up in your 20s feeling closer to 40 --- most especially if there is a lack of socialization with children your own age, and you the vast majority of the first two decades of your life around people your parents' or grandparents' age. So when you're in college, you feel alien from everyone who is your own age.)

All of this goes double if the reasons for homeschooling are religious fundamentalism, or add a disbelief in autism or ADHD into the mix.

My experience is that the vast majority of people who homeschool their kids don't do so because the education system is 'failing' but because of control --- my kid isn't going to be infected by evolution, etc (and transness nowadays).

This is, of course, not all homeschools, but it remains by far the majority of what I have seen in person and online.

Also there is a sense of illegitimacy. When your high-school diploma is just a sheet signed by your father stuck in a folder that you have to send out when official transcripts are required, it's a constant worry of if these records are going to be accepted or not, or that this school has no XYZ ID number because there was never any such thing back then, etc. All of the educational records that would you would normally request to be transferred between institutions, you have to manage.

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