[pokler]

To point 1, this almost feels like catch-22. While sleep may be a way to recover from stress, stress is probably the single thing that impacts my sleep the most (aside from alcohol consumption, which is much easier to control).

Does anyone have any help or tips here?

[focusedone]

I had a year-long stretch averaging 4 hours of sleep daily that was extremely difficult.

Tried all of the regular remedies: diet, exercise, reading, prayer, habit changes. My doctor prescribed a medicine to help me calm down at night. That was the first thing that actually helped.

That kept going until I left a very stressful job and landed in a healthy environment with a different employer. I was able to stop the medicine after a couple of months.

All that to say, there are many methods that work for different people and situations. Don't discount speaking with a doctor or therapist, and don't continue through life with bad sleep. It's a really rough way to go.

If you can identify the thing(s) keeping you up at night, and if they're things in your control, consider making changes. Living without good sleep sucks. Do whatever it takes to get good sleep, even if it means big changes.

[naasking]

I was going to suggest that sleeping pills are a good way to re-establish good sleeping patterns. Set a strict sleep schedule, and then take the pills for a few days to a week in that schedule. Once you manage to sleep on this strict schedule for a few days your body's rhythms typically realign so you get sleepy on that schedule. Don't use the pills for extended periods though.

[bradlys]

tl;dr - no, there are no solutions. If you cannot fix the source of stress then you’re fucked.

I also agree with the sentiment. Anytime my stress levels rise - my sleep goes back to shit. Is there a solution? Nope!

If you cannot fix the source of stress then you need to learn to embrace the madness. Learn to just accept you’re not getting more than 5 hours of sleep a night and you’ll be better off for it - instead of sitting in bed for 8-10 hours everyday and majority of it wishing you were asleep. Embrace the 2am fall asleep crash and the 6am wake up hustle.

Truly is a nightmare to live through but that’s life.

[RankingMember]

I've found with time that the easiest way to fall asleep is to try to meditate. Sit there or lay there in a quiet room and just watch your breath going in and out, not chastising yourself or getting frustrated when your mind inevitably wanders. Simply acknowledge that you've gone off track and come back to your breath. Normally in meditation, the goal isn't to fall asleep, but it is definitely something that you can let happen if you want to.

[dangwhy]

> Does anyone have any help or tips here?

Yes. when you go to sleep don't put any pressure on yourself that you need to sleep X number of hrs or whatever. Just go to bed on regular schedule and be thankful for the amount of sleep you get, actual amount is irrelevant.

[groestl]

What helps me: write down a list of all the things going on, preferably pen on paper.. Allow yourself to do turn on the lights again and write additional stuff on it... Repeat until there's nothing more to write down.

[doubled112]

What happens when it is 4am and you are still waking up to add more?

[pitsnatch]

You need to make a conscious effort to become better at managing your stress. When you notice your stress is peaking, try different techniques to relax yourself. Find out what works then you can make that a daily habit to reduce overall stress. Also need to train your mind to flip off the stress switch when it’s time to go to sleep.

[ryeights]

How to beat stress and anxiety, step 1:

>become better at managing your stress […] train your mind to flip off the stress switch

Well yes, I suppose…

[cmurdock]

> Also need to train your mind to flip off the stress switch when it’s time to go to sleep

Hoo boy that's easeir said than done.

[tinyhouse]

It depends on what is your main problem. Falling asleep? staying asleep? For the former using melatonin might help (I never use more than 0.5mg a night). I also find that podcasts help me fall asleep once I focus on listening. There are also specific meds that can help with stress which you can take when things are bad (e.g., lorazepam). Just having them by your side can help with your sleep since you know it's there in case you need it. Then of course, sport and meditation are great tools have better quality of life, not just better sleep.

[kenmorechalfant]

What has helped me a lot: get plenty of sunlight; especially in the morning (very important to our biological clock), started taking probiotics once a day before a meal, I try to eat complex carbohydrates in the morning (fruits, vegetables, beans, seeds); which promotes good gut bacteria and more stable blood glucose levels, exercise every day, no caffeine 8 hours before bed, nothing but water 2-3 hours before bed and I take 10mg of Melatonin most nights before bed (sometimes 20mg).

[evancox100]

That is likely way too much melatonin than is needed or helpful. Try taking 1 mg or even 0.5 mg a few hours before you want to fall asleep. Lots of easy to find evidence that common dosages are way too high. Typical person produces anywhere between 0.1 mg and 0.9 mg per day (varies strongly with age). Remember, absolutely none of the supplements in stores are regulated for safety, efficacy, or appropriate dosage levels.

Example: https://news.mit.edu/2001/melatonin-1017

[lofaszvanitt]

If you do hard physical exercise (weight lifting, forget running), until you are dead tired, and stop drinking stimulants (coffee et al) then you will have good sleep. So simple.

[wruza]

The best way to have a good sleep is to stop being anxious and depressed, forget bad things, stay happy, be relaxed at evening, have a good hormonal profile, eat healthy, have a strict circadian discipline, a loving partner and live a nice live in general.

Exercise helps with the relaxed part.

[hydraxis]

It was like that for me, until it wasn't. I am still weight lifting but my sleep is much worse if I push too much. Sleep issues are simple only until you have them.

[12345hn6789]

Running properly is just as tiring as a good weight session.

[cmgbhm]

Exercise and make it easy to do. I got a peloton bike and just made it a habit in the morning. I then eased into yoga at night.

When Covid hit, 4 kids home/remote job/divorce all hit at once. I have to do something hard enough that my brain can shut off worrying about the thing. Lizard brain has to be active enough to think threat is gone and shut off.

The hardest days for me are intentional rest days/weeks where I have to be mindful of not having that same release.

[bmelton]

Any one of those in isolation could be crippling, but all together?

I just wanted to say kudos for finding healthy outlets to manage.

[mrburkins]

Each one of those could be an insurmountable challenge for most people. I’m glad you were (seemingly) able to pull through.

[spot5010]

The tip that helped me the most was to get exposure to sun when I wake up. Highly recommend this podcast from huberman lab: https://hubermanlab.com/using-light-sunlight-blue-light-and-...

[sharadov]

Working out a few hrs before bed time, followed by a shower and dinner has always helped me get a great night's sleep.

Even during the most stressful of times, that evening workout helped reset my mood.

Reading in bed helps immensely as well.

[loeg]

I find melatonin really useful, if that's something available where you live (its regulation varies radically between the US and Europe). I find it's best about 30 minutes before bed.

[tmountain]

Almost everyone takes too much of it when they do. The actual recommended dose is very low. Efficacy rapidly declines with habitual usage, and effective utilization requires that you go to bed very soon after taking it (lights out, no screens, etc). This said, it can be a good short term solution for sleep issues.

[wruza]

Doesn’t work on everyone. Tried it a couple of times, felt like stoned for six hours laying in darkness rethinking life choices. Probably circadic issue, idk, body scan works much better.

[raydiatian]

Melatonin, Benadryl, Exercise, Yoga or meditation, sunlight, good food, persistence and dedication

[arboles]

One of these isn't as wholesome as the others