[toto444]

I have found that instead of wanting things I don't own, wanting to see created things I haven't created yet very liberating.

Since it makes my goals very personal, I can't compare myself on an objective metric with other people and as a result feel less frustrated about not earning more.

[tmshu1]

Same. For me, the creational mindset led to a sense of freedom and excitement that the problem-solving mindset can never get close to.

Problem-solving mindset: what problem do I need to solve? “Problems” will always arise life (due to other people, random events, our brain always wanting novelty, etc.), so this mindset is a reactive one that leads to anxiety and lack of direction.

Creational mindset: what would I love to create? This mindset can seem harder to get at because of all the conditioning we’ve gotten from society and childhood. But all it takes is a simple perspective shift. It leads to more proactivity, and trust that you’ll be able to do whatever you need to do. All the secondary, tertiary, etc. questions about how get answered relatively easily when you’re clear about what you want to create.

[amelius]

How do you trick your brain into this? How do you ignore friends who buy a new car every year?

[BizarreByte]

Some of us don’t have to trick ourselves. I own a modest house and modest car, they fit into my budget and put me so far ahead of my peers financially people don’t believe me when I say how good things are.

A car especially is just a tool, I care as much about someone’s car as I do the hammer in their toolbox, but I am not a car person.

It comes down to what you value. Stability, time, and financial freedom matter more to me than any fancy thing I could buy.

[drbig]

> How do you ignore friends who buy a new car every year?

No need to ignore anything. Instead realize that everyone on this planet has exactly the same amount of hours in a day - the poorest and the richest alike. With that understood realize that you can only spend your time on so _few_ things that you better choose what's really important to you.

And thus one may choose to spend time on projects and making stuff, and "friends who buy a new car every year" are simply people that chose differently - there is little point to ordering the choices (or conversely you can always design a metric by which any given choice will be strictly superior to others - thus making such orderings generally pointless).

And in terms of money and even its power to buy time - it's all diminishing results surprisingly quickly. And if you like cars then indeed switching every year sounds like a much better strategy than owning many at the same time.

To each their own. Would be extremely dull otherwise!

[petercooper]

I think it depends on what the car represents to you. Are you truly into cars or are you into the status conferred by owning a new car?

If you're genuinely into cars and driving, you might well indulge in buying nice cars and find it emotionally fulfilling. If it's about status, however, you can probably find more fulfilling ways to attain status that doesn't involve purchasing a trinket you don't truly want or need – perhaps by becoming known in the local area as a donor/philanthropist, having the best garden on the street, involvement in local politics or sports teams, being in a band, becoming a busybody on the PTA, and such things. (I admit these things all sound a bit suburban but that's my frame of reference.)

[ericmcer]

I don’t ignore them I usually view them as someone whose priorities don’t align with mine.

Money is freedom and trading that freedom to get a shiny toy doesn’t make sense to me. I would much rather know I can work on what I want or not work at all than drive to my job in a nicer car.

[barelyauser]

> How do you ignore friends who buy a new car every year?

The fact you notice and thinks about it means you care. You want a new car every year. You envy it. Be honest to yourself and go get it. That is what you want.

[0wis]

Personally, I have some tricks that seem to help. I force myself to come up with at least 3 things I am grateful for as part of my daily journaling. I started this some years ago and it really help to change your focus towards enjoying everything you already have access in modern society. Plus, learning about personal finance, investing and compounding made me think twice before spending. I end up valuing more financial freedom than incremental comfort/status upgrade.

[antisceptic]

I'd imagine a healthier version of something like: "Simpletons, relying on consumerism for their dopamine rush, they're no different from ants! Meanwhile I am a /creator/ of things!"

[toto444]

I can ask you the same question :

How do you ignore friends who write a new book every year?

[tmshu1]

What stops you from just ignoring them?