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jmckib | 3 years ago

I know we are all speaking from our own experience here, but I’ve never even heard of a woman being disgusted by or leaving a man because he cried. I’ve cried in front of every long term girlfriend I’ve ever had and it’s never been a negative, only positive.

Could it be a cultural thing? I’m American and I’ve always lived in major coastal cities.

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rayiner|3 years ago

> Could it be a cultural thing? I’m American and I’ve always lived in major coastal cities.

Possibly—I’m from a Muslim country. I’ve seen my dad cry twice, once when our dog died and once when his mom died. He had a good relationship with his own dad but didn’t cry when he died. My mom would probably freak out if he expressed more weakness than that.

But to my point, Americans in major coastal cities are a minority in terms of culture. And I assume you are white. Even in major coastal cities, non-whites typically have more traditional expectations about male behavior.

Our_Benefactors|3 years ago

> I’ve cried in front of every long term girlfriend I’ve ever had and it’s never been a negative, only positive.

They’re your exes… how can you be so confident that it was positive for the relationship?

jmckib|3 years ago

Because of their reactions and also because we stayed together many years afterwards, not to mention I’m currently married to the most recent one!