[ominous]

Commenting to correct just this:

> that I should be ashamed for wanting to hang out with trans people

I do not think that. Rather, I used it to point out how you placed all cis in one category, and refer to them as all the same.

> All you’ve done is concisely demonstrate why someone like me would want to hang out with people that get me

"people that get me" does not necessarily mean "non-cis". But you happily used it like that. Using "being trans" as proxy for being safe will get to talking with trans people who believe in gender roles, and will enforce a gender-roles status quo. That you likely do not like.

> And to be honest I suspect the reason is that I’ve said I’m trans. Otherwise I can’t imagine why you decided I should be immediately dismissed.

Had I dismissed you, I would not have engaged. It's not because you said you are trans. It's because you seem to act as if identity drives knowledge (positioning), and as if whites and cis were to be seen as purely elements of the oppressor class that when coming together are only doing so to exclude the oppressed and perpetuate the status quo.

I said nothing re: you. Rather, your worldview. You feel attacked. I understand.