[ominous]

> Everyone needs to have a refuge and I share who I am when I want to. But I also want people who see me without needing an explanation.

That's reasonable and I agree. And I am happy that you find it.

I do not assume you want to fully isolate. But you stated that when white people gather in a white supremacist culture, that is not ok. Neither is the culture homogeneus enough to be called "white supremacist", nor are white people to be prevented from gathering just by the fact that they are white.

Note: replace white with whatever other category du jour. Cis, non-vegan, right-handed, etc.