[curiousguy]

Why do you think you need to achieve 4 or 5? Or even 3?

Salary in tech are so high that even with a mediocre bonus, it’s still a good life.

For the last two years, I aimed for just meet expectations. Easy job, no stress, just taking some time to relax.

Last few months, I decided to continue progressing in my career so I started taking more responsibilities.

The point is that work is not linear, it’s fine to relax a bit or even downgrade your role.

[jjav]

> Why do you think you need to achieve 4 or 5? Or even 3?

Because if you do a solid good job that's a 2, but a couple 2s fairly quickly gets you on the RIF train to getting fired. Which is nuts. So everyone has to outcompete their team trying to get those 3s. And the manager is put in the nasty position of having to rotate the 2s (which they must hand out since there's always quotas) among the team so that hopefully nobody gets RIFd while still meeting the quotas.

(Assuming a 5 point scale here, which is fairly common, but I've seen other scales but the same principles apply.)

My partner was a manager at the G of faang for many years and twice a year the whole month was blocked off for 60-80 hour weeks just to fill endless review paperwork. And their employees spend all of the six months between reviews scheming ways to fill that next round of paperwork. It's all a monumental waste of time, effort and cause of unnecessary stress for everyone.

None of this nonsense exists in other industries, at least as far as I know from talking about it with my circle of connections in other professions such as law, medicine, accounting.

[curiousguy]

> Because if you do a solid good job that's a 2, but a couple 2s fairly quickly gets you on the RIF train to getting fired.

This definitely seems bad, but it’s not common in every tech company. Maybe is something in your company or city/country?

I worked in a few countries and I’m UK at the moment. Large corporations do have performance reviews, but there is no expectations that everyone needs to over achieve.

If your job is burning you out, maybe is worth it to look around for a new one. Is the high salary of FANG worth it? “Boring companies” can still pay good enough and have really interesting tech challenges.

> None of this nonsense exists in other industries, at least as far as I know from talking about it with my circle of connections in other professions such as law, medicine, accounting.

Maybe not in the same way, but they still have their own struggles to progress in their careers. The main difference is that the tech industry doesn’t have labor regulations and every company needs to do their career progression.

However, Law can be as bad on that, lawyers need to grind for years before getting seniority and higher salaries.

Medicine and accounting is extremely government regulated and you need to get specific certification to pass to the next role. So there is a lot of pressure to get those.