[LukasRos]

I'm the guy who wrote the post and I can confirm the number of single women I meet is extremely low - which is what I meant by "lack of opportunities". I do have a somewhat active social life but I would have to actively optimize that for meeting single women, which would require some changes, which I haven't done - "lack of desire". But it's something I want to work on and maybe that's my next blog post :)

[muyuu]

I suspect it will just start happening naturally if you get into something that isn't too male-dominated. Not necessarily knitting-club or yoga class levels, but maybe astronomy, gardening, camping/hiking or board games level.

[brabel]

I didn't have too much trouble getting girls when I was younger, in my home country... but once I got a bit older, and I mean around early 20's, not 40's, it started getting really difficult, and not for lack of trying... I was pretty much a party animal at the time, and would do pretty much all sort of things to meet girls and hopefully start a serious relationship, which was my real goal for quite a lot of time. I went to university events I knew there would be girls (not in my department, CompSci was almost entirely male). Gym. Festivals. You name it, I did it. I even tried approaching a really geeky girl I knew, as I thought she might be a good partner as she was a bit like me, just more extreme in her introvertness... after a few "dates", she had to told me she's lesbian, and I had no clue :D.

I really hurts to say that I completely failed. I saw lots of friends getting girls so easily while the girls I approached seemed to be offended by me even trying. I did end up having a couple of short relationships with women I was completely unattracted to, unfortunately... but of course, it couldn't last.

I made it my number one priority to find a wife (now I was past 30's already). So I started online dating, which I found miserable and humiliating. Nothing much came of it. Until I finally went on international sites. Likely, most of it was scam, but basically the first woman I started communicating seriously with became my wife, eventually... funny how things go.

But at the cost of me having to move to another country, something I had no intention of doing... but as my number one priority, I made the sacrifice of moving and leaving everything behind, as she told me from the beginning she would not move for me.

We're still married, more than 10 years later, but I really miss "home", and even though she's quite good to me, I wouldn't say we're a perfect match... I had to give up not just the country where I lived, but things like having children (she doesn't want any) and visiting my family often (she doesn't like them). Everyone knows I moved just because of my wife, and it feels horrible to me because, truth be told, there are so many gorgeous women where I came from and they know it too :(.

I am at least happy I didn't end up alone.

All I am saying is: if you think it'll just happen naturally... well, it won't... but be careful how far you're willing to go to make it happen. Maybe it's not worth it.