[locustous]

Do you really need it spelled out for you? This is a pretty obvious statement.

https://verilymag.com/2017/07/causes-of-divorce-effects-of-w...

https://www.science.org/content/article/divorce-rates-double...

You can find plenty of pro porn propaganda out there too. They want to fill the channels with, at least, uncertainty.

But use your own brain and human experience. Do many women you know celebrate porn use by their husbands/boyfriends? That it doesn't bother them at all?

I don't need a study to tell me a hot stove burns.

It effects your relationship even if you successfully keep it hidden. You can't hide the effects, particularly how you objectify the women about you. It's so common lots of people think this is normal. It's not normal, it's not good, and it causes unhappiness in a woman that wants to be really loved. Her. Not her body. Not that image you saw or that video you watched in your mind while you are with her so you can sustain an erection. Just, her.

But you won't be able to give that to her. We men often natter on about the emotional sensitivities or frailties of women when they complain about things we think we are doing right. But there is something missing and she feels it. This is squelching the voice that is trying to lead you to do better, be better. To be a source of warmth, love and happiness instead of a cold stone that gets off to equally cold sex objects.

[sophacles]

> I don't need a study to tell me a hot stove burns. I've experienced the pain myself.

How is this in any way relevant? Touch stove -> get burned is an immediate and consistent causality chain. See porn -> get divorced is not an immediate response in almost all cases, nor is it even consistent.

Frankly the whole causality sounds a lot like people getting married before knowing important things about thier partner. (and yes if you are going to divorce someone over porn watching, it's an important thing to know about them going into the marriage, you should at least ask. On the other side, lying about it and trying to hide it are bad too - maybe honesty is a good idea in marriage situations... who knew?)

[locustous]

> How is this in any way relevant? Touch stove -> get burned is an immediate and consistent causality chain. See porn -> get divorced is not an immediate response in almost all cases, nor is it even consistent.

It's a metaphor. Somethings can be clearly understood, by individual experience, without needing a body of citations. As clearly as a burn.

You misunderstand the nature of the personal and relationship damage if you think that divorce is the principle issue. It is but a symptom of the unhappiness that is rooted in porn use.