[ksaun]

Yes, it is a very selfish act.

Imagine how must pain they must be in to act in this way, to dismiss or not realize how much harm they will cause.

Imagine how much pain they must be in to demonstrate such extreme selfishness. To behave in a way that seems so out of character, so different from how they'd treated their loved ones prior to that act.

And consider how selfless they must have been to have held off as long as they did. To have endured the immense pain and struggled to resist the escape of suicide, until that time when they were finally overcome and capitulated.

[ChrisPebble]

Beautifully put. To add to that, they need to win against the darkness every time. The darkness only needs to win once.

I lost my brother in law to suicide. He left behind three young children and the harm he caused to his family is immense. He was also one of the more motivated men I have met and a devoted father. For this to make any sense I either have to conceive of a completely altered state of mind, or a pain and struggle that I can't imagine.