This 100%. Self compassion, and learning that, for me, my irritability was coming from a place of anxiety, which then could escalate into anger.
Also, on the ADHD side, implementing schedules and routines to make sure I get things done appropriately and not get as easily distracted by things like video games or social media.
At first it felt like I was in grade school again, with an agenda book and blocking out time, but lo and behold it works out well. Not fully able to follow schedule to a T, but a vast improvement over before.
simonswords82|2 years ago
Make a mistake? No big deal it’ll be better next time. Learn from it rather than beat myself up for it.
Hit that red traffic light? Time for self contemplation and putting the heated seats on rather than being pissed off I’m delayed 30 seconds.
Get an email that triggers my threat response? Take a breath and think about who I have around me who can help rather than take it all on myself.
Have a read of learned optimism. Great book.
Get therapy. Hit the gym. Go for walks. Brush your teeth for 2 mins. Moisturise. Show yourself as much self care as you can.
spacephysics|2 years ago
Also, on the ADHD side, implementing schedules and routines to make sure I get things done appropriately and not get as easily distracted by things like video games or social media.
At first it felt like I was in grade school again, with an agenda book and blocking out time, but lo and behold it works out well. Not fully able to follow schedule to a T, but a vast improvement over before.