I agree with your take here. I have a partner that anyone in this thread would label as a #1 but my two siblings are essentially on the same plane of intimacy. If my partner left my life for whatever reason, I'd still have my siblings and while losing someone is hard it wouldn't destroy me because of that support. Its a fairly normal dynamic in my family. I had two uncles who lived together their whole lives, even through relationships that didn't end up working out even though they had children. My grandmother lived in the same apartment building as her brother for 30 years and her other two siblings lived in the same neighborhood. Her husband (my grandfather) died a few years into their marriage and her siblings (who never got married) always fulfilled the role that a partner would play.
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