[ThrowITout4321]

I'm dealing with something similar. I used to sit with my mother to talk but almost immediately she would start talking about how unfair life had been to her and about all the people that had done her wrong. It was negative that led to negative. It was hard to take.

Eventually I got tired of it and started to negatively reinforce it. Instead of consoling her, I started to tell her how hard it was to hear what she was saying and that I didn't want to hear it anymore. I asked her to focus on the positive parts of life and gave her samples of what real tragedy was like by pointing out samples in the news that she watches every night. I know it was harsh but I don't think it was harsher that her recounting the same stuff everyday to me. The negativity has slowed not stopped but at least we can have a conversation now.

This is what I did but I can't recommend it to you since your situation can be so much different. Also, her short term memory is still functioning to a point. She mostly does her daily care and she requires very little help.

[rayxi271828]

That's very interesting. Somehow, not in an unkindly sense, I can't help but feel it's a bit like "prompt engineering". Thank you for sharing your experience.