[sriram_sun]

It was shocking to me that room mates could get hired that easily.

This was the bay area.

My comment is highlighting structural imbalances as they exist in society right now.

Even though networking as a way to grow, it is not an option for a lot of people until much later in their careers. That is because of social conditioning.

[secondcoming]

You're really grasping at straws here.

You sound like you'll be a problematic employee for the totally bizarre reason that you're jealous of how other people got hired before you.

[seabass-labrax]

That sounds like plain envy to me, and it's not bizarre (although it might well be unhealthy) to be envious of those with better opportunities than you. As for whether that is associated with being a problematic employee, well, problematic can also mean profitable when envy is a powerful motivator.

[sriram_sun]

Not envy. Empathy.

[spondylosaurus]

I'm surprised (or maybe not that surprised) no one has countered the "This is just how networking works" argument with: Yes, but if the network you're pulling from is mostly white guys, doesn't that signal a problem in itself?

[poszlem]

No it does not. This is a bizarre way to look at things, that is all to common in the US but very much alien in most of the world. Why are those two dimensions important to you (white and male)? What about affluent/poor, educated/uneducated, ginger/blonde, immigrant/native, enthusiastic/bored, religious/atheist, left-wing/right-wing.

The only problem here is the insistence on seeing things through the clownish lens of the "race-sex" combo. It makes it sounds like you can pretty much interchange "white males", like - "I guess I've already got a white guy friend, now I need an asian, and a black one". Nobody sane makes friends like that.

I would be really surprised if you didn't have a: "Indian guy - Room mate of employee" "Indian guy - Room mate of employee" "Indian guy - Room mate of employee" network in many Indian startups. Except each of those dudes would be a different person, with different experience, differente world view, different likes and dislikes, so what does it matter that they are Indian?