[greatwave1]

Yes they can, people can (and should) have some influence over their own life.

[carlosjobim]

Then you're trying hard to misunderstand, and what do you gain from that? There's no point in arguing about semantics.

[greatwave1]

I think my point is pretty clear: you listed a whole hierarchy of people who you think should have control over your child's behavior (with you at position #1), and haven't given any answer for where you think a child's own decision-making should fit in

Did you miss my original question?

> Do they get any input in what technology they derive value/enjoyment from, or is that entirely dictated by adults in their community who grew up 20+ years ago?