[jdance]

Seems this is about people skills. Some people are weird and annoying and you have to find ways to thrive even with their presence, or move to another project as others are suggesting

Many different ways of dealing with it,

- from not responding at all (I do this often when people just ”ping” without stating their business),

- to asking what the matter is and if its urgent otherwise lets discuss it (a good while) later when I have time (I do this often too, my job is programming and requires focus time)

- to just saying that you are busy right now

Just a few ideas, find the guts to experiment and learn

I actually rarely bring up these kind of issues with managers, I find its mostly about signaling and breaking the loop that annoying people thrive on. Learn to subtly draw a line, repeatedly if you must, without being confrontational