[topher200]

I occasionally ponder on how frustrating it is that the deceased don't get to hear their eulogies. It would have been amazing for Bram to have been able to experience all the outpouring of support and love from people he is interacted with during his life. Especially in a context where the speakers aren't considering him as an audience -- they're sharing their deep and true feelings.

No one can really be sure how their acquaintances feel about them. Eulogies are the closest we get. Imagine if he were able to hear all these great things said about him... It would be such a joy.

[dmvdoug]

This is why I always make it a point to tell people how much I appreciate them and why (when I do, I mean). It can be awkward at first, but I’ve developed a good self-deprecation that lets me excuse myself for being gushy (“I might start crying; I’m a crier!”), and that disarms people for the most part. I think it’s really important that we let people know how much we value them and why we honor/respect them when we do. Because most of us do wander through life in a cloud of unknowing and uncertainty.

[beachy]

Off topic but your comment makes me think of Nick Drake. He died at 26, before even knowing he'd achieved anything, his music barely listened to, probably feeling a failure. Posthumously he's one of the world's most acclaimed recording artists. RIP Bram.

[block_dagger]

Good example, although Van Gogh is probably the more cited.

[bmiller2]

Larry David had the same thought, and it was the theme of the episode "The Covid Hoarder" in Curb Your Enthusiasm wherein Albert Brooks stages a funeral for his non-deceased self.

[dtgriscom]

Cue "Waking Ned Divine" reference: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UXe_kRQdHfU

[jfax]

That's what birthdays are for. I like to think, anyway.