[AndrewPGameDev]

Suppose you were 60 years old with 3 kids who live out of the house. You like to go golfing on the weekends, and have no intentions of ever going pro. This weekend, you get to the golf course to see a series of robots have been installed on the course. When you swing, they always give constructive, helpful feedback to try to improve your golf swing. You cannot turn the robots advice off.

I would feel horribly patronized in this scenario. I don't go golfing to get better at it, I go golfing to relax. Similarly someone can program and not necessarily want to be better at it. It depends on their goals and desires. Giving someone advice before asking means you have to guess at what their goal even is. In many contexts (work) this is fine but in general it is not.

To answer your question, the reason why someone might reasonably take offense to unsolicited advice is that unsolicited advice is inherently condescending because it implies that the advisor knows more about the topic than the advisee. It also implies that the advisor knows the advisees skill level and goals. It's kinda insulting, and in another way it's almost controlling as the advisor reframes the discussion around "being good at X". I don't want to be good at golf, I want to enjoy my time golfing.

[mosselman]

I completely don’t agree about your analysis of what givers of advice might feel like. Some people just want to share what little they know in the hopes that others return the favour.

Let’s say you are installing bike seats for your kid, but you attach it in a way that 3 minutes into the ride your child would fall off. A neighbour sees this and comes over, unasked, to tell you you did the straps wrong. Are you now insulted or glad someone taught you something important?

In general the problem about people who feel insulted about things is that it is their own interpretation. Insult lives with yourself. You can choose not to be. Why would you put so much power into other people’s hands?

Don’t get me wrong, I can get insulted, so it is a constant work in progress.

I feel like in your story instead of robots, people would be more like receiving unsolicited advice. A machine is a machine. If you get offended by advice from machines you have totally different problems.