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My tendency to be a victim of the Dunning Kruger Effect and constant repeating of the same mistakes points to an intelligence deficit. I have tried using both anger and discipline multiple times in the past to change and improve myself but it has never worked long enough, it always fails. So, I definitely need external help.

I don't think I need a therapist as I don't really plan/want to end myself. If I had a time machine and there was no grandfather paradox, I would make sure I won't exist but since that's impossible, I am looking to find whatever methods, experimental, surgical, whatever to eliminate what I also hope are just impediments and not an absence of intellect. I need to find someone who can tell me if my problems have solutions.

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david927|2 years ago

Your problems have solutions. It sounds like these mistakes were repeated and clear. It seems that you could intellectually see it, but you chose differently for other reasons. It may be an emotional barrier. Do people consider you stubborn? If so, that's fixable. Stop. You don't have to brain up, you have to wise up. The thing in your way is you and your brain but not in the way you're expecting; it's not intellect but wisdom. And it's not going to be fixed with brain surgery or an increase in IQ. It's going to stop when you allow it to stop.

People think of Therapists as Surgeons, a last resort. But they're also General Practitioners that you can just talk to. It can be that external help/voice. I really suggest trying for a couple months and see if it offers you anything. No harm if not. Or don't -- that's ok too. But they can't do shit unless you try.

Try the two other things I mentioned: long walks and wild writing. Again, try it for two or three months. If it doesn't help, no harm.

The key to this is in your hand. But it may not fit the lock that you're expecting. If you're open to true change, you can be pleasantly surprised but first you have to try.

iwant2endmyself|2 years ago

People consider me lazy, don't know about stubborn. I have this aversion to doing anything productive or intellectually demanding even if I want to.

Also, I am unable to adapt to suit the situation (social or otherwise) which is troubling since adaptability is a fundamental trait of human capability.

I guess a therapist is the only way for me to get out of this lifelong funk I have been in, because my conscientiousness is non-existent and no matter how much I try, I will make the same mistakes again.