[pierrekin]

One last thing that is a little bit sadder, so I thought I'd post in a separate thread.

I grew to really like the engineer that invited me to the project. He was a well known expert in the field with a wiki page, books, academic eminence and everything, and he offered to mentor me etc.

I travelled with him a few times from FB's London office to the prototyping site and he was always very generous with hotels, travel etc.

Eventually someone pulled me aside and mentioned that he had "alterior motives" and had repeated the same pattern with previous young men. I was honestly so saddened and betrayed, and afterwards couldn't believe I had been so nieve as to be made to feel special by him.

[bbor]

That's terrible, thanks for sharing. I thought I was pretty cynical, but I didn't see that coming at all -- good reminder to keep an open mind and always maintain boundaries, just in case. Also the implicit ending is sobering: he likely continues to pursue such asymmetrical relationships to this day, because "cancelling" high-level corporate workers is a lot harder than #metoo makes it seem