[mgamache]

There are a couple of things to consider.

1) Women don't need men in modern society. They would likely stay married longer and be more picky about the type of man to bread with if they were stuck with him forever. The benefit is that women don't get stuck in abusive relationships.

2) Modern dating is turning us into polygamists. Women will pursue the top 10% (or so) of men and those men have little incentive to get married. There is a financial penalty to having children, but much less than getting married and having children. Of course this leads to single mothers with, at best, part time fathers.

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These points are laid out as if they're clearly true but I'm not sure that's the case. It reduces people to rational actors and assumes they're all optimizing for certain conditions but both of those assumptions are clearly false to me. In any case, I'd like to hear all this talk about women from the perspective of a woman.

[randomdata]

It is clearly stated that the points are something to consider, not the they are strictly true. Is there something of value that you are trying to add here?

[johnnyanmac]

1) a big benefit is still either a) the option to have a full time parent or 2) the option to have double income. Both are becoming less and less of an option as housing prices go out of control in the U.S. (the subject of this article's sources)

it doesn't necessarily mean women need men, but people in general are starting to require some partner or otherwise roomate to make ends meet. with the context of a kid, that overwhelmingly implies a partner.

2) if only. it's more like casual sex in general is more popular. Not necessarily a bad thing, but if less people are meeting romantically and are getting their sexual gratification casually, you see how this can lead to less stable relationships (if they form at all).

even in an unofficial capacity, polygamy may be able to solve quite a few problems. But I'm not sure if that sentiment will shift in my lifetime, at least in the U.S.

[codeTired]

You’ve got some stats for this? People are still getting married. The divorce rates are not 100%.

Your post seems a bit out of touch with reality imo. It’s a very “internet” opinion, which according to statistics is not true.

[mgamache]

Yes people are getting married still, but it's a trend that you can see in dating apps and sex stats

https://qz.com/1051462/these-statistics-show-why-its-so-hard...

[yowlingcat]

This is an oft repeated trope that flies in the face of evolutionary history [1]. Because it doesn't actually work, I think that it reflects socioeconomic class demarcations -- that is, the upper class and the lower classes take different strategies.

[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/R/K_selection_theory

[mgamache]

My hypothesis is supported by dating and sex data. And no it doesn't work at scale or for very long, but it is a driver of mate selection.

[WD40forRust]

Because of (2): I am less 'patriotic' and will put myself above "my nation" because of what online dating has shown regarding male attraction.

I have no skin in this game in any way that would have me contributing to society; and, from twenty years of experience being told repeatedly I am not good enough, I will act completely selfishly. It is my duty, and the duties of other "leftover men" like me, to minimize any sort of sense of civic duty, contribution, and taxation, and to keep an eye out for a much better deal (even if it's in a foreign country). We must not let The State turn us into cucks: let the nation of single mothers sink or swim on its own without us!

[drjasonharrison]

Wow. While women may not "need" men, men live longer when they are in a healthy long term relationship. Typically this is heterosexual marriage, but if you can find a buddy who will do the stuff that a wife will do when your body decays, good for you.

My mom outlived my father by a few years. My grandmothers both outlived their husbands. This is well known pattern.

"men going their own way" may lead to more lonely, sick, unhappy men.

[mgamache]

This is exactly why a marriage norm exists. You can't have large societies with a Signiant number of men not invested in it's future. They tend to find destructive ways to use their energy.

[mcpackieh]

They can downvote you but I don't think they can explain why you're wrong.