[mikebenfield]

> Is this deep deep flaw endemic to humanity across cultural lines?

Yes, almost certainly.

> Are millennials/ Gen Z the first generation where men anre (perhaps?) allowed to be almost as emotional as women?

This does not appear to be the case in my experience (as an elder millennial with Gen Z acquaintances). Although it surely varies by subculture and individual, in my experience women in the dating market still pretty strongly enforce pretty traditional gender roles for men. You can also see this in social media, notably TikTok - if you're familiar with the trend of young women talking about their "icks" (things that turn them off in men), you'll notice that the "icks" are usually about men being emotional, or being affected by their environment, or showing weakness in some (often trivial) way.