[ravishi]

If I may ask: do you have kids?

I used to have a lot of trouble when trying to not care about stuff. I didn't care about most stuff, but it used to be impossible to not care about stuff I was naturally interested in.

Now after almost three years raising a toddler I can see clearly when people are behaving like babies. And I'm used to handle a stressed baby who is not cooperating for God knows why. It happens quite frequently and I just play along. I got used to being there, offering support without any expectations (because he usually doesn't want any at that point), trying things out just to give him a chance to take the bait, etc. Now it just feels like life is finally making sense to me. I catch myself applying this to my relationship with my wife, to my work, etc. I feel like I would probably not make these realizations nor develop this mindset if it wasn't for my kid.

[iteratethis]

I don't have kids, but I can totally understand how that would increase one's tolerance for chaos.

I think I "don't care" because I'm very analytical. Already at a very young age did I realize that this world doesn't make much sense in that it's not very logical, consistent or fair. It's more like a game to play.

So you develop a kind of "humans going to human" attitude where you detach from drama. Or at least pick your battles.

[tpoacher]

"Humans going to human".

I like that. Hope you don't mind me stealing it :)

[imetatroll]

Man does this resonate. More people should endure kids not just for this but for the joyful moments as well.