[ericls]

Okay, go tell {your wife, your children, your parents, etc}, and say: “I love you, but there’s a part of of you that I just can’t accept and want to change.” Will they think you still love them? Do you think you can love them that way?

Your love to them should be a source of power to accept all of them. Your love to life should empower you to embrace death.

[ajb]

Possibly this is well meant, but all I get from it is that you don't appear to know enough about life to give that advice (both the content of the advice, and the method of giving it).