[tcrenshaw]

There's no all in one solution that I'm aware of that ticks all of those boxes. If you're already standing up a server, I would recommend using mikrotik switches along with tplink omada APs. You can set up the free omada controller on the server.

For the camera side, Reolink or Amcrest POE cameras (or WiFi if you must) paired with a PVR like Blue Iris if you're a Windows guy or Frigate on the Linux side