[ohwellhere]

For all the men reading this, you should know that women discuss this as a tactic men take regarding housework, cooking, childcare, emotional labor, or any other traditional "women's work". Even when tolerated, they generally find it obnoxious and lose respect for men who do this.

That's oversimplified and overgeneralized, yes. But perhaps there's a little nugget in there that's useful for someone.

[stereo]

Yes, it's called 'weaponised incompetence' or 'strategic incompetence' in popular psychology. The concept was recently discussed a lot on social media in the context you're mentioning.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Weaponized_incompetence