[Firadeoclus]

> It's not a matter of identity, but explanatory power. To reiterate, the self-acknowledgement/'diagnosis' as autistic (not ASD) is 'useful from a self-compassion and tolerance standpoint'. So instead of, why do I find X difficult when everyone else finds it easy (or even laughs/condescends/points it out), I can say, I'm autistic, that's not easy for me.

It bothers me a bit that, if you turn it around, the lack of an explanation would be an impediment to self-compassion and tolerance. "I find X difficult" ought to be enough, whether that coincides with any other traits (autistic or otherwise) or not.

[h0l0cube]

You make a good point. The "I find X difficult" is a 'disability' trait, and disabilities are only really relevant where they conflict with the expectations of wider society. In all cases it's really the social exclusion that's the problem. If someone has a trait that either can't be changed, or takes exceptional effort to mask, it shouldn't be on them to do the impossible. If however it's just habit, or actual lack of effort to change, that's a completely different thing.