[broscillator]

I'd disagree a bit. Family and friends are centered around a self. There's millions of people who are super generous towards their circle yet assholes towards strangers. I think seeing strangers with more generosity is transcendent.

In fact I'd say this concept is strongly related to how you behave precisely when there's no belonging: to those that don't belong in your perceived group and when you don't feel like you belong in a group.

[em-bee]

true, that's a good point. i didn't grow up with much of a supportive family myself, on the other hand i come from a country with strong social support, so i tend to focus more on the outer society myself, also my social network depends on the openness of strangers.

you are right, transcendence of self needs to reach everyone, and especially the outsiders.