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thdespou | 2 years ago

Because the stakes are high. Nevertheless you shouldn’t take this personally.

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scrubs|2 years ago

Yep. Essentially what Linus is saying is that he has got to have more time, more competence, more vigilance that he wants because the other side can't or won't. And it's a recurring problem.

Sometimes we want more control and can't get it. Frustrating. Sometimes senior people are sick and tired of control and want less. Frustrating!

youngtaff|2 years ago

Well he should learn to communicate in away that doesn’t appear like he’s treating the other person like an idiot

anon-sre-srm|2 years ago

> Nevertheless you shouldn't take this personally.

This is what narcissist enablers say: that some people are more equal than others.

em-bee|2 years ago

i think you are mixing something up here.

taking things personally doesn't stop the narcissists, it only enables them and others to hurt you. so how can not taking something personally enable narcissists?

for your own mental sanity, you should try to not take anything personally. put it down to that person being an asshole, or someone who lacks the mental capacity to be nice, or whatever putdown you can think of.

not taking something personally does not mean you condone that behavior. you can reject a behavior even if it is not aimed at you.

if you take things personally it only hurts your own ego, and if that happens to much, it may lead to self-doubt, or even depression. it's not worth it.