[BwackNinja]

This is only looking at the problem from one side. If there's a crisis and you're not treating it as one, you are committing two sins. Not only are you wrong, but you're wasting time more valuable than your own.

On the flip side, if you're treating something as a crisis when the person trying to help knows there isn't one, you're putting undue pressure and stress on someone and hurting both parties in the process.

The fundamental problem is inconsistent and inaccurate assessments of the situation. People are attached to their mindset and are often too stubborn to re-evaluate. The solution presented only shows concessions on one side. I'd add that if someone else thinks a situation is dire and you don't, you should try to understand their perspective better rather than immediately considering them rude and dismissing their concerns.

[quickthrower2]

None of that requires being rude. Terse maybe. Which may seem rude. But not actually rude. To me it is simple. Is it ad hominem?

[dirtybirdnj]

It is simple in theory but messy in practice

People are bad at identifying bad behavior in themselves, but they can sometimes see that same behavior when others exhibit it. Whether they can then put this together into genuine introspection and growth is another story.

https://youarenotsosmart.com/2014/01/07/yanss-podcast-015-i-...

[reportgunner]

I wish many people would know what ad hominem is to begin with.