[highmastdon]

From your response I assume you have no children or maybe one.

There’s a vast array of character traits in children that require different parenting in a way that your parents haven’t treated you or your siblings or you’ve been unaware of the way they’ve treated you differently from your siblings.

I had on child, a girl, and I though the same way as you. Everything went well and was reasonable. Until my second was born. A boy with a “do-then-maybe-think” character trait. He’s awesome and loving and his emotions are like valleys and mountains. Totally different kid. Radically different way to communicate and raise him.

I’ve been reading “Good Inside” and this resonated with me. It’s a radically different way of looking and caring for your kids than I used to be treated. Can recommend

[staplers]

Similar experience here, children are highly volatile and deserve a basic level of care to ensure both parent and child have the tools they need to function and cope with life.

It should be vastly generalized but for many parents having a foundation of broad knowledge to build upon would be a major help.