Many of the courses offered by the folks a level or two “up the pyramid” include instruction on finding people who are a good fit for your coaching—which, I shit you not, includes not asking too many of the kinds of questions they absolutely should be asking. It’s all about finding someone who’ll fall for your pitch and then directing the rest of the sales conversation away from questions that would reveal you have no expertise or track record of success or wanting to pin down exactly what the intended beneficial outcome of the coaching might look like in concrete, specific terms, and quickly dropping anyone who is too resistant to staying within the lanes you want them to.
This can happen to anyone who accepts external authority on psychological matters. If you want to build a bridge, obviously you need an expert. But if you can't be a light to yourself and presume that you need a guru, therapist, coach, shaman or whatever to teach you things you couldn't possibly find out for yourself, well, there are no shortage of people (well intentioned and not) who will keep you in the role of the helpless by assuming the role of the helper.
I'm not saying there's anything wrong with listening to other points of view, but ultimately one needs to be a light to themselves and observe deeply what rings true.
vundercind|2 years ago
bithive123|2 years ago
I'm not saying there's anything wrong with listening to other points of view, but ultimately one needs to be a light to themselves and observe deeply what rings true.