[neilsharma]

Outsource as much as you can afford, even if its just help around the house.

[qwerpy]

Echo this. We paid a lot for 24/7 postpartum nannies, au pairs, and other kinds of nannies. Good quality liquid formula so my wife could catch up on sleep. Various appliances, strollers, car seats, toys, etc. There is some narrative out there that throwing money at the problems is cheating, missing out on bonding time, not as good for the child, etc. It's pretty much all lies, in my opinion to make some people feel better about not being able to afford these things. Years later, we have healthy young children and have loving relationships with them. But almost equally as important, my wife and I had lots of time to relax, recharge, and take care of our physical and mental health.

I worked these obnoxious high pressure tech jobs for many years, and now is when I get to reap the benefits.