[hotpotamus]

Perhaps we could call it putting your best self forward to make a good first impression? The advice I've often seen is to treat a date like a job interview - is full honesty expected there? In fact, in a romantic context, is full honesty ever appropriate? If you said something like, we're probably both around 7 on the attractiveness scale, make similar incomes, aren't getting any younger, and probably can't do much better; let's settle for each other - how would that sort of honesty play?

[bongodongobob]

I don't think treating dating like a job interview is a good idea unless you are interviewing them. You can either put your personality out there and be rejected or you can fake it, and then when you do out your actual self out there get rejected later down the road.

The choice is yours!

[borski]

I agreed with your first comment, but this isn’t quite fair. People put their best foot forward not because they are lying or pretending their negative qualities don’t exist, but because showing the positive ones can often lead someone to overlook and accept the negative ones, whereas leading with the negative rarely works the other way around.

You dress up for interviews, more than you would to go get a coffee, and likely more than an average day at the office. Is that lying?

People also dress up for dates. They wear makeup and nice shoes. They’re not liars; they’re dating.

[hotpotamus]

I'll note that both your options there end in rejection.