[kyykky]

It is important for the children to learn about different feelings, their control, and so on. This is not an excuse to use anger to control kids but I think you shouldn't avoid it at all costs or you will burn out or lose faith in humanity. It's not binary, angry or not angry, because there is a full range of emotions between the two end points. For example, there are few things that make me angry anymore but my older child hitting the younger one to hurt him, e.g., to revenge something trivial such as stealing a toy, which has unfortunately happened once or twice, makes my blood boil and I am happy to make it clear that there is a limit to my (and everyone else's) tolerance. As a sane person you then feel bad about losing your temper. Dealing with difficult emotions and explaining them is part of raising children.