[throwaway38937]

You get conscious about plugging into or creating community, and you don’t wait around for it to happen. That’s a skill that can be developed. You pay attention to how things are done differently, take notes, and try to be ready to incorporate the best of all worlds.

And hopefully you learn to appreciate all the incredible advantages to be had in staying somewhere longer. At least that’s how I feel, moving between 7 different cities in the last 10 years.

[dostoynikov]

If I don't care about being "myself", I can easily plug into or create community. It is not about ability to be honest. I want it but when I have it I want to get rid of it quickly.

If I ever could stay somewhere long enough to take a root, I probably would be a completely different person. I feel both glad and sad for the life I lived.