I used to work in a senior position as a programmer making quite a lot, and of course, everyone around me including friends and family considered my successful.
But, a few years into that job, I considered it to be the most unhappy time of my life. I quit and became independent. I started building a series of passive income streams. I'm not really working very hard at it, and I certainly make hardly any money compared to before. But I'm a lot happier.
Now I "work" maybe 10 hours a week, and I spend the rest of my time chillin', working on projects that migth be profitable or might not be, reading, writing about whatever I want, etc. But I've got enough and it's the best time of my life.
Yes, I don't have kids and that's partly what enables my alternative lifestyle. But it just goes to show that private land ownership coupled with the family lifestyle necessarily leads to increasing wage-slavery, especially once areas become saturated and land becomes scarce.
What we need to do is move towards a system where private land ownership on a mass scale (not talking about your house) goes away and owning land for yourself to live and eat on is no longer an investment strategy but a way to establish a relationship with the biosphere. The current system is broken....
On a little tangent - similarly I was quite senior early in my career and a combination of burnout, politics, and toxic leaders led me reconsider my career on the eve of my first child being born.
I transitioned to a mid-level role which is comfortable, easy in comparison, pays most of my prior salary, way less hours and responsibility, and less politics. I’ve won. For now. (I would do what you do if I had no kids!)
Anyway what strikes me these days is social peers now reaching where I was, but at a normal rate, and trying to impress me with how senior they are compared to me - this notion of seniority equaling success is ingrained in society. Little do they know (or remember) that I have been there and they may learn the same lesson in time. I let them gloat, give them some wisdom, and sit back waiting to see what will happen.
I have a similar story, went from making 250k to 0 in 2019 just to reset my mental health. No kids, house paid off. It was more successful than I ever could have thought. Lockdown came and I decided to extend the sabbatical. Then everyone moved on from COVID but working still didn't feel right to me. So I still don't have a job, but my investments are supporting me, and my wife and I decided to have a child so now I'm a full time stay at home father. I never would have seen this for myself when I was trapped in the wage cycle.
I watched a coworker completely change modes after buying a house in the Bay. He questions nothing the organization does anymore and it’s almost like watching a politician speak the way he talks about anything in meetings. It’s very transparent and rather chilling. I can only imagine he’s now terrified of losing his job now that he has a ball and chain of a mortgage payment.
Consider the meaning of interest rates. I work 10 hours in exchange for 10 moneys. I could exchange it for 10 hours work from some other guy. But what does it mean when I purchase a government bond and make 1 currency per year of interest? I can purchase 1 hour of work in exchange of nothing. People are not working for me because I work for them (a fair system). They work for me because I'm the dragon with a pile of gold, and gold must come back to me.
The gaping hole in your average communist's redistribution pipe dream is always supply and demand, which cannot be explained away - so you conveniently ignore it and think there's some magic reality where everyone is happy with living in a degrowth mindset having very little of anything.
Of course we all know what ends up happening - an elite is formed via alternative means, and usually mass deaths, either from lack of resource or organized massacre.
I'm absolutely unsurprised people are working themselves into ill health when 'gurus' are telling people "by all means work 7 hours a day, but the guy next to you is working 22 - who do you think will succeed..?!" We've normalised this to a point people fill their days with busywork just to feel like they're achieving. It sucks.
I say this from experience. But I much prefer life with 7 and a bit hours of solid sleep, exercise, making time for a social life, and actually walking away from my desk when I'm just pushing around the cursor.
There was once a businessman who was sitting by the beach in a small Brazilian village.
As he sat, he saw a Brazilian fisherman rowing a small boat towards the shore having caught quite few big fish.
The businessman was impressed and asked the fisherman, “How long does it take you to catch so many fish?”
The fisherman replied, “Oh, just a short while.”
“Then why don’t you stay longer at sea and catch even more?” The businessman was astonished.
“This is enough to feed my whole family,” the fisherman said.
The businessman then asked, “So, what do you do for the rest of the day?”
The fisherman replied, “Well, I usually wake up early in the morning, go out to sea and catch a few fish, then go back and play with my kids. In the afternoon, I take a nap with my wife, and evening comes, I join my buddies in the village for a drink — we play guitar, sing and dance throughout the night.”
The businessman offered a suggestion to the fisherman.
“I am a PhD in business management. I could help you to become a more successful person. From now on, you should spend more time at sea and try to catch as many fish as possible. When you have saved enough money, you could buy a bigger boat and catch even more fish. Soon you will be able to afford to buy more boats, set up your own company, your own production plant for canned food and distribution network. By then, you will have moved out of this village and to Sao Paulo, where you can set up HQ to manage your other branches.”
The fisherman continues, “And after that?”
The businessman laughs heartily, “After that, you can live like a king in your own house, and when the time is right, you can go public and float your shares in the Stock Exchange, and you will be rich.”
The fisherman asks, “And after that?”
The businessman says, “After that, you can finally retire, you can move to a house by the fishing village, wake up early in the morning, catch a few fish, then return home to play with kids, have a nice afternoon nap with your wife, and when evening comes, you can join your buddies for a drink, play the guitar, sing and dance throughout the night!”
The fisherman was puzzled, “Isn’t that what I am doing now?”
When I worked in public accounting, the idea was that you slaved away as an associate making relatively nothing but would reap the fruits of your labor at the senior level (and increasingly more so as you promoted higher). Most wouldn’t make it to senior or would but would jump ship as soon as they were promoted. There was a built in turnover rate at the lower levels that was very high.
My cohort hit senior in 2020 right when we shifted to work from home. The business made the decision that the economic environment was too uncertain and skipped the annual raises across the board, including for promotions. Suddenly, we were seniors with the pay of associates. 2020 saw record revenue for the firm (they didn’t reveal expenses), and it also saw the largest productivity increase ever. I couldn’t believe it. People were working almost twice as much with their pay was frozen around $70,000 while working as seniors with a masters degree and CPA license.
When things opened back up, that period did a lot of lasting damage to the people that had been “brainwashed” by the system. I saw many people who I think would have become mindless robots change their outlook completely and leave. For me, it was the catalyst to switch into software engineering where I no longer felt like I had to play the game of working more and more to keep up with the others who seemingly never slept, particularly in busy season. Staying up at the office until 2am on my birthday is something I hope I never have to do again.
I’m sure the firm recruited more bright-eyed kids who are ambitious yet insecure like the article mentions, and the partners are making more money than ever while working more hours than ever. I’m happy to be a software engineer that doesn’t have to put up with that level of commitment in exchange for such a small wage. There’s performative theater at the office and then there’s public accounting.
Exactly. I'm not a rich man, I make about 50k SEK /month. But I work when I want, where I want, travel the world with my dog, no obligations on office hours, dress code, and I realistically work 20-30 hour weeks.
I'm a senior consultant at a large well established partly state owned european telco. Life isn't about work, it's about living.
> I'm not a rich man, I make about 50k SEK /month.
That puts you in the top 10% of income earners in Sweden, a country in top 20 of virtually every income metric: mean and median income (PPP), GDP (both nominal and PPP) per capita, GNI (both nominal and PPP) per capita.
My parents had the same life. They worked for the government.
One thing I realized is that if you don't work hard and generate wealth, your next generation of family won't enjoy the life that you had, as wealth compounds really quickly and not accumulating makes generations start from scratch.
If that is not your life goal—creating a family, looking after generations, etc.—then you are doing the right thing.
So you basically get to do what you want with your life? Sounds rich to me!
When you look at people who have more money/stuff, remember they generally fall into one of two categories:
1. They come from wealthy families,
2. They've spent their lives working and now they get to fill whatever remainder they have left with things, but they can never get those years they spent working back.
You can't choose 1 so don't waste a brain cycle thinking about it. The question is, do you want 2?
> "Insecure overachievers are exceptionally capable and fiercely ambitious, yet driven by a profound sense of their own inadequacy. This typically stems from childhood, and may result from various factors, such as experience of financial or physical deprivation, or a belief that their parents’ love was contingent upon their behaving and performing well."
Culture plays a part too. I may have all those things but still work a steady 40 hrs a week. In fact, my employer gets worried if I work more than that, because they recognize the importance of downtime for employee performance.
The worst thing is that I saw the same principle applied to people that make hardly enough money to live. At least the people of this article seems to have high income, so as soon as they realize their aren't in a bad position they could have an happy exit. But for people that everywhere they look, they will experience the same tragedy, this is horrible and a big problem in some categories.
I imagine that if you have to work more than a sustainable pace to achieve a role, that it can be difficult to return to a sustainable pace and feel that you are "giving" the same. So, there is this self-imposed pressure to continue your behavior.
Even if the entire time one convinced themselves that the plan was to "get to the top and give 90%", it's probably hard to suddenly change. At least, this is my experience as a 35 year old who worked a lot, telling myself that the delayed pleasure was the right thing. Now, (sometimes) I genuinely do not enjoy "fun" things as much because I have conditioned myself to not enjoy it.
Suppose then, in that whole "life has many buckets" idea, you have some control over bucket size. Perhaps it is learned and intentional.
People who truly love their work will have to stop themselves from working 70 hours a week. Sadly not all of us are that lucky, but some people truly love working, and I can't say that's a bad thing, considering our current societal structure. In fact, I'm quite envious.
Probably somewhere in millions to tens of millions is upper limit of diminishing returns, unless you believe quack/unproven/illegal science and are willing to have children blood transfusions.
By the same coin that wealth doesn't persist after death, neither can one iota of pleasure or experience be taken to the grave. Your brain will rot and everything becomes dust.
You can sometimes free up time by spending money. You don't need billions. At the same time, it's hard to pay someone to do work for you if you're barely scraping by.
Exactly this. Brad Jacobs has the record for the most IPOs on the nasdaq. He has started something like 6 different billion dollar companies and he just started his next venture. He's in his 60s and works 7 days a week.
He just loves the game. His office is where he thrives. Someone like that is bound to end up making a lot of money and it's because they didn't stop after their first million like most would have. Because it was never about money it was about doing what they love.
I'm not. Except for time-limited emergencies, I have never worked more than 40 hours per week for others. That's never been part of the business deal I agreed to.
In my own ventures, however, I work insane hours. I'm willing to do that because I'm making a bet/investment that benefits me. I'm not going to kill myself in order to benefit someone else's business. The very idea seems crazy to me.
I think it’s hard to generalize this. I would get sick not working all the time. I love it, and while the domains might change, the amount of work likely wouldn’t change based on the amount of success.
[+] [-] vouaobrasil|2 years ago|reply
But, a few years into that job, I considered it to be the most unhappy time of my life. I quit and became independent. I started building a series of passive income streams. I'm not really working very hard at it, and I certainly make hardly any money compared to before. But I'm a lot happier.
Now I "work" maybe 10 hours a week, and I spend the rest of my time chillin', working on projects that migth be profitable or might not be, reading, writing about whatever I want, etc. But I've got enough and it's the best time of my life.
Yes, I don't have kids and that's partly what enables my alternative lifestyle. But it just goes to show that private land ownership coupled with the family lifestyle necessarily leads to increasing wage-slavery, especially once areas become saturated and land becomes scarce.
What we need to do is move towards a system where private land ownership on a mass scale (not talking about your house) goes away and owning land for yourself to live and eat on is no longer an investment strategy but a way to establish a relationship with the biosphere. The current system is broken....
[+] [-] ssss11|2 years ago|reply
I transitioned to a mid-level role which is comfortable, easy in comparison, pays most of my prior salary, way less hours and responsibility, and less politics. I’ve won. For now. (I would do what you do if I had no kids!)
Anyway what strikes me these days is social peers now reaching where I was, but at a normal rate, and trying to impress me with how senior they are compared to me - this notion of seniority equaling success is ingrained in society. Little do they know (or remember) that I have been there and they may learn the same lesson in time. I let them gloat, give them some wisdom, and sit back waiting to see what will happen.
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[+] [-] waihtis|2 years ago|reply
Of course we all know what ends up happening - an elite is formed via alternative means, and usually mass deaths, either from lack of resource or organized massacre.
[+] [-] iamben|2 years ago|reply
I'm absolutely unsurprised people are working themselves into ill health when 'gurus' are telling people "by all means work 7 hours a day, but the guy next to you is working 22 - who do you think will succeed..?!" We've normalised this to a point people fill their days with busywork just to feel like they're achieving. It sucks.
I say this from experience. But I much prefer life with 7 and a bit hours of solid sleep, exercise, making time for a social life, and actually walking away from my desk when I'm just pushing around the cursor.
[+] [-] aredox|2 years ago|reply
The businessman offered a suggestion to the fisherman. “I am a PhD in business management. I could help you to become a more successful person. From now on, you should spend more time at sea and try to catch as many fish as possible. When you have saved enough money, you could buy a bigger boat and catch even more fish. Soon you will be able to afford to buy more boats, set up your own company, your own production plant for canned food and distribution network. By then, you will have moved out of this village and to Sao Paulo, where you can set up HQ to manage your other branches.”
The fisherman continues, “And after that?” The businessman laughs heartily, “After that, you can live like a king in your own house, and when the time is right, you can go public and float your shares in the Stock Exchange, and you will be rich.” The fisherman asks, “And after that?” The businessman says, “After that, you can finally retire, you can move to a house by the fishing village, wake up early in the morning, catch a few fish, then return home to play with kids, have a nice afternoon nap with your wife, and when evening comes, you can join your buddies for a drink, play the guitar, sing and dance throughout the night!” The fisherman was puzzled, “Isn’t that what I am doing now?”
[+] [-] fileeditview|2 years ago|reply
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[+] [-] KptMarchewa|2 years ago|reply
[+] [-] jbverschoor|2 years ago|reply
Land gets bought and developed. Suddenly no fish anymore, and things become expensive. Healthcare kicks in.
[+] [-] sotix|2 years ago|reply
My cohort hit senior in 2020 right when we shifted to work from home. The business made the decision that the economic environment was too uncertain and skipped the annual raises across the board, including for promotions. Suddenly, we were seniors with the pay of associates. 2020 saw record revenue for the firm (they didn’t reveal expenses), and it also saw the largest productivity increase ever. I couldn’t believe it. People were working almost twice as much with their pay was frozen around $70,000 while working as seniors with a masters degree and CPA license.
When things opened back up, that period did a lot of lasting damage to the people that had been “brainwashed” by the system. I saw many people who I think would have become mindless robots change their outlook completely and leave. For me, it was the catalyst to switch into software engineering where I no longer felt like I had to play the game of working more and more to keep up with the others who seemingly never slept, particularly in busy season. Staying up at the office until 2am on my birthday is something I hope I never have to do again.
I’m sure the firm recruited more bright-eyed kids who are ambitious yet insecure like the article mentions, and the partners are making more money than ever while working more hours than ever. I’m happy to be a software engineer that doesn’t have to put up with that level of commitment in exchange for such a small wage. There’s performative theater at the office and then there’s public accounting.
[+] [-] INTPenis|2 years ago|reply
I'm a senior consultant at a large well established partly state owned european telco. Life isn't about work, it's about living.
[+] [-] magnio|2 years ago|reply
That puts you in the top 10% of income earners in Sweden, a country in top 20 of virtually every income metric: mean and median income (PPP), GDP (both nominal and PPP) per capita, GNI (both nominal and PPP) per capita.
[+] [-] debarshri|2 years ago|reply
One thing I realized is that if you don't work hard and generate wealth, your next generation of family won't enjoy the life that you had, as wealth compounds really quickly and not accumulating makes generations start from scratch.
If that is not your life goal—creating a family, looking after generations, etc.—then you are doing the right thing.
It is a cultural thing.
[+] [-] FirmwareBurner|2 years ago|reply
Most people in the world, even in the west, don't have such fortunes of making good money while coasting.
[+] [-] globular-toast|2 years ago|reply
When you look at people who have more money/stuff, remember they generally fall into one of two categories:
1. They come from wealthy families,
2. They've spent their lives working and now they get to fill whatever remainder they have left with things, but they can never get those years they spent working back.
You can't choose 1 so don't waste a brain cycle thinking about it. The question is, do you want 2?
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[+] [-] begueradj|2 years ago|reply
It's all there.
[+] [-] refurb|2 years ago|reply
How many people who work long hours do it because they are an "insecure overachiever"?
The article reads a bit like "stop doing things I don't like" and "if you like doing something I don't like there must be something wrong with you".
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[+] [-] yawgmoth|2 years ago|reply
Even if the entire time one convinced themselves that the plan was to "get to the top and give 90%", it's probably hard to suddenly change. At least, this is my experience as a 35 year old who worked a lot, telling myself that the delayed pleasure was the right thing. Now, (sometimes) I genuinely do not enjoy "fun" things as much because I have conditioned myself to not enjoy it.
Suppose then, in that whole "life has many buckets" idea, you have some control over bucket size. Perhaps it is learned and intentional.
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[+] [-] rightbyte|2 years ago|reply
Just affording a safer car, or not having health hazards in your house or workplace, buys you "seconds of life" on average.
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[+] [-] echelon|2 years ago|reply
By the same coin that wealth doesn't persist after death, neither can one iota of pleasure or experience be taken to the grave. Your brain will rot and everything becomes dust.
This rationale is equivalent to yours.
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[+] [-] refurb|2 years ago|reply
Just talked to a guy last month. 73 years old. Works non-stop. Worth hundreds of millions in his 40's.
He doesn't work 80+ hours per week because he has to. He does it because he wants to.
These people aren't common but they are out there.
[+] [-] missedthecue|2 years ago|reply
He just loves the game. His office is where he thrives. Someone like that is bound to end up making a lot of money and it's because they didn't stop after their first million like most would have. Because it was never about money it was about doing what they love.
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[+] [-] JohnFen|2 years ago|reply
In my own ventures, however, I work insane hours. I'm willing to do that because I'm making a bet/investment that benefits me. I'm not going to kill myself in order to benefit someone else's business. The very idea seems crazy to me.
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Just to be clear, this has a double meaning. ^_^
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