[zachkatz]

If the problem is psychological trauma, wouldn’t therapy be the obvious solution?

[magicalhippo]

The root cause is psychological, but it's manifested itself in physical changes. She's hyper-sensitive to certain sounds for example, which causes her to not be able to fall asleep, or to abruptly wake up. Mostly low frequency sounds, so hard to block.

But yeah, as I mention in a reply to a sibling comment, she's tried therapy for years without much progress, though recently making some progress on that front.

[verticalscaler]

I know it really sucks and have struggled with it myself for a long time. Two things really worked for me.

Try these: https://www.loopearplugs.com/products/quiet

And at the same time have some calming barely perceptible background noise from a speaker somewhere in the room. White noise, brown noise, lofi, whatever works. Make sure the bedroom has blackout curtains and soft light.

As for cannabis, she doesn't have to smoke it. Appropriate edibles will knock her to sleep. Doesn't have to be a permanent thing either, breaking the cycle and getting good sleep for a few weeks is life changing and may be the start of a virtuous cycle instead.

I recommend both of you enjoy this video together: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mK2iXQm4LJs

Good luck!

[ajb]

I am sensitive to low frequency sounds . The thing that seems to work for me is to play thunderstorm sounds, with isolating earphones. Because this sound has a high degree of randomness across the frequency spectrum, and its spectrum varies randomly over short timescales as well, external noise is masked even if it's still audible - because the brain can easily fit it into the thunderstorm pattern, and so doesn't get triggered by it.

Your milage may vary of course

[Aeglaecia]

you say that so flippantly