I know nothing of the specifics so please forgive me if this sounds obvious or insulting...
It might help to sit him down and have an adult conversation with him about the whole situation. Kids show a surprising amount of astuteness when necessary. The important thing is to approach the situation as a team (you with your son against the world, as opposed to you against what your son is doing). Maybe framed as "If you don't want to go out anymore, we can work together to make you comfortable and safe, but the government has rules and they're going to fight us - so we all need to put our heads together to figure out how to make this work!" Figure out what compromises he'd be happy with, and what ways there are for "enlarging the pie" so that he feels like you're on his side in the end. With greater trust between you, he might start talking more about what's going on in his head.
This might make it easier to have specialists come in to see him, because you can explain to him that you need diagnosis X from this guy to get the government off the family's back. Just whatever you do, don't trick him (lie about why someone is there to see him). Lose his trust and you lose him.
kstenerud|1 year ago
It might help to sit him down and have an adult conversation with him about the whole situation. Kids show a surprising amount of astuteness when necessary. The important thing is to approach the situation as a team (you with your son against the world, as opposed to you against what your son is doing). Maybe framed as "If you don't want to go out anymore, we can work together to make you comfortable and safe, but the government has rules and they're going to fight us - so we all need to put our heads together to figure out how to make this work!" Figure out what compromises he'd be happy with, and what ways there are for "enlarging the pie" so that he feels like you're on his side in the end. With greater trust between you, he might start talking more about what's going on in his head.
This might make it easier to have specialists come in to see him, because you can explain to him that you need diagnosis X from this guy to get the government off the family's back. Just whatever you do, don't trick him (lie about why someone is there to see him). Lose his trust and you lose him.