[CaptArmchair]

Cooking classes, volunteering, sport clubs, the gym, group travel, boardgames, photography classes, dancing lessons, language classes, concerts, movie clubs, hiking groups, etc. etc.

Of course, you wouldn't attend those with the explicit goal of finding someone special. I'd argue that the other way around is much healthier: go out there, explore activities that mesh with who you are, or get you a bit out of your comfort zone, and you'll likely meet new people who might just surprise you.

[tivert]

> Cooking classes, volunteering, sport clubs, the gym, group travel, boardgames, photography classes, dancing lessons, language classes, concerts, movie clubs, hiking groups, etc. etc.

I think the specific activity is less important than whether it's done by a community or not. That's especially true if you're the kind of person who has trouble connecting quickly with new people.

Some of those things (e.g. volunteering, gyms) can turn out to be relatively solo activities or have a lot of people treating them as such.

> Of course, you wouldn't attend those with the explicit goal of finding someone special. I'd argue that the other way around is much healthier: go out there, explore activities that mesh with who you are, or get you a bit out of your comfort zone, and you'll likely meet new people who might just surprise you.

I agree with that broadly, but I think if "finding someone" is on your list of priorities, you should try to gravitate to things with a larger group or a just-right amount of churn.

[ethbr1]

Good point, in that some of these are not like the others.

Imho, if you're joining a group with a goal of meeting people to possibly have a relationship with, you want a group that:

   - Is a community (people stay in it)
   - Is growing or has turnover
   - Has enough of a connection to make friends

And a particular note that you might not meet people in the group, but... the people you meet in the group might introduce you to other people.

That's the way things used to be done before social/dating apps -- "Hi, have you met ____? I think the two of you have a lot in common..."

And by and large, it worked pretty well. Who better to matchmake than people who actually know both of you?

[01HNNWZ0MV43FF]

I dunno. None of those activities mesh with me. I went on a dating site and over the course of about a year found a couple other girls to watch movies and have sleepovers with. We all work and don't have hobbies like those, so we would not have run into each other.

My favorite group activity is sleeping together with lesbians.

[wil421]

Not sure if the last one has easily discoverable clubs.

[namaria]

Yeah you can always make genuine connections anywhere. This isn't insightful...

[HelloMcFly]

It's a fair comment in response to your "You get restricted to the bar/party scene" comment, which is a pretty significant overstatement.