[terr-dav]

"Communities of people with disabilities" sounds like a self-identified group whose members share common experiences of dealing with people without disabilities. "Immediately distilling it down to..." is an interesting way to describe someone sharing an example while making a broader point.

Whether something is insulting depends on the particular interaction and how the recipient of the 'help' feels about and perceives the attempt to help.

I've been learning the importance of consent in any intervention. Without consent, my attempts to help a person may be perceived as an act of taking control, overriding the other person's will.

> Both groups have problems, maybe just different ones.

So my problem might be a lack of perspective that is characteristic of privilege, and their problem might be me; sincerely, innocently & naively making their situation worse.